The Elusive Art of Being Humble
You may be reading this and currently going through tough circumstances and have already been humbled but this is about being humble no matter where you are.
Quotes on Being Humble
It’s flattering to people who stop you and say that you’ve helped them and all. But, again, you know, you’ve got to stay humble because as quick as you came up, you can come down. – Joel Osteen
The proud man counts his newspaper clippings, the humble man his blessings. – Fulton J. Sheen
Success comes to those who dedicate everything to their passion in life. To be successful, it is also very important to be humble and never let fame or money travel to your head. – A. R. Rahman
Gratitude over Ego = Humbleness
Being humble, when the world would be OK with you NOT being humble is one of the sexiest ways to be for men and women. Let me tell you a quick story of how I totally fell in love with my wife.
I had lost it all in real estate, gone through a divorce, got engaged to someone and then disengaged and life was in a really weird place for me. I was dating around and not serious with anyone when I met Jess. We dated on and off and then one day she was not feeling well and I brought her soup and tea to her work and she literally cried out of gratitude.
Now, here she was, beautiful, young, smart and a great sense of humor yet was humble to be vulnerable and super grateful when the world would have totally understood her NOT being humble, that is the moment I knew I was totally in love with her as I had never been with a woman of such grace and humbleness.
Why Staying Humble is Hard for People who grow their Network Marketing or Training Businesses
Inside network marketing, if you put in the work to become a leader or if you create a training business for people inside network marketing, you have the opportunity to impact a lot of people and get massive amounts of accolades, thank you’s and tear filled messages of gratitude.
I have been very fortunate to have people that I have never met come up to me and thank me for my podcasts, videos and blogs and it is so gratifying to hear and I always appreciate it. If left unchecked though, you can start to let these praises get to your head and I have seen it over and over and over again in our profession which prompted me to write this blog to help you out.
1. “Don’t get high off your own supply”. Ever see the movie Scarface? In the movie one of the golden rules of dealing drugs is don’t get high off your own supply simply meaning, don’t use what you are selling for profit that you hope others get addicted to on yourself.
Some marketers and trainers get high off their own supply in that they start taking to heart their marketing they use to promote themselves. Remember where you came from and remember also that they people that will follow you are fighting their own struggle, keep that in mind before you become too big to stay grounded.
2. “You can’t let praise or criticism get to you. It’s a weakness to get caught up in either one.” – John Wooden
It’s common to hear not to let the critics or skeptics get to you but you should also not allow praise to get to you either. The minute you start buying into either, you lose precious ground with those that are looking at you from the outside and that may not know you as well as that person that gave you the extreme praise (or criticism).
3. People cannot pat you on the back if both of your own hands are already doing it. This is a phrase I said in a mastermind we held in April. It means if YOU are putting a ton of effort patting yourself on the back, you don’t leave any room for anyone else to do it. This is a CRITICAL mistake. You see, people LOVE helping people out that are valuable and they believe has something to offer to others, however, you blow this when you invest a lot of time telling everyone how great you are. They literally don’t feel the need to help you at all being you are already so awesome (in your own head).
I cannot stress how much money this can cost you. Being humble almost FORCES others to want to introduce you to others and sing your praises. Let’s say you were a total egomaniac but you were also goal oriented. IF you have big goals, being humble will get you so many more connections and kudos than almost anything else you can ever do. On the flipside, being arrogant will cost you almost more than anything else you can do.
4. Building a following. You want to ALWAYS analyze your actions as to WHO are they turning off or turning on. Being a big shot will ALWAYS turn off high end individuals and MIGHT turn on low end individuals. Many trainers are focused on building followers which flies in direct contrast to attracting leaders. What turns on the person that hasn’t made it to success yet may very well turn OFF those who have. Be mindful of your marketing and never act in a way that could possibly turn off those high end individuals, which, arrogance, always will.
Last Thought
Being humble does NOT mean being weak nor does it mean being shy or anything like that. Being humble means you know who you are and don’t need to impress or boast. It is the ULTIMATE power. When you don’t need to tell everyone how awesome you are, you become more awesome.
Be more interested in learning from others than interested in teaching others how awesome you are. This is not always easy for people who accomplish a lot, even for me. Growing up where I constantly fought for my Dad’s approval created something inside me that wants to impress people to win them over, catching this trait and correcting it has not been a perfect process but it’s another one of those “works in progress”.
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