Why Do People Treat You The Way They Do?
I blog about a lot of topics around network marketing, self-improvement and mindset. Success in any of those areas all come down to how you relate to others and how you communicate. Think about it. The most successful people you know are great communicators most of the time. They are also treated a certain way by their peers. That doesn’t mean that being successful brings you tons and tons of friends, it certainly can also bring you enemies or people envious of your success. So, take where you are in life with your relationships. Why do people treat you the way they do?
Notice I did not indicate whether people treat your badly or well but you immediately drew a conclusion on what I was talking about. If you have more relationships in your life that you don’t understand or don’t like how you are treated, you probably immediately thought negatively. In this blog I am going to teach you why people treat you the way they do.
– Think about your spouse or significant other. How do they treat you, are there any patterns?
– Think about your kids, if you have them. How do they treat you, are there any patterns?
– Think about your parents. How do they treat you, are there any patterns?
You know one pattern in the above questions, is you. Here is the secret to unlocking why people treat you the way they do. People treat you the way they do, because you have trained them how to do so. If your child acts out to get attention and you give it, they have you well trained. If your spouse or partner does something to annoy you, and they are consistently doing it, they are getting a payoff and you are training them to keep doing so. We desperately desire pointing out other people’s flaws and problems and where they are wrong and where we are right but, we cannot change them, we can only change ourselves. To be more precise, we cannot even control what happens to us but we can control how we react to them.
Yesterday I was at a parent seminar and I was talking to a mother who was complaining that her son made her do everything. The example being that she was in this seminar, was with his father and called her to ask where his hat was. Her complaint was that the father should have intervened and handled it while she was out but when I asked if she had always been the one to do, find and help with everything she said yes. So, I told her she was getting exactly what she had trained them to do. It is only when you retrain people on how you want to be treated that they will change and the only way to do that is to change the way you respond.
If someone is not treating you the way you want to be treated, don’t cover it up, address the issue, bring it into the light. Only once it is out in the open can it be properly addressed. Did you know that most people complain about people that have no idea they even have that complaint about them? How much sense does that make? Why lead a life that is full of stress when it just isn’t necessary and it is totally a waste of time.
This certainly pays true in business as well. The way you train people to treat you when it comes to money and business will play out over and over. If you have taught people to treat you like someone who is always hurting for money, don’t expect them to be excited when you bring home your latest network marketing opportunity. Be the person that you yourself would want to sign up with and hang with people that aren’t around you from pitying you. You have the power to change anything in your life, so start leading that life that you deserve!
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