How to Stop Self Sabotage
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How to Stop Self Sabotage
The truth is, most people have some successes in life but a lot of time they are so self sabotaging that those successes get buried under all the negative things they notice. This will help you learn how to stop self sabotage.
The Reality with Self Sabotaging
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Here is the number one key on how to stop self sabotage, understand the root cause. The root cause of MOST self sabotage scenarios is….Choosing to be right over being happy. That’s it. A person is having some success in their business or in a relationship and “something happens” and the “victim” starts to create a story on how unfair or wrong that something that happened is so they spiral downward effectively killing all the good work or successes they had previously created. Then, they focus all their negative energy on convincing others around them how wrong the “something that happened” is and they focus on that until people around them get tired of hearing about it.
Does this sound familiar to anyone you know or worse yet, you?
Happiness is the Key on How to Stop Self Sabotage
Instead of proving how the world wronged you, why not choose happiness? If you stop and think for a moment at your current “to do” list, are you focusing your energy and emotions on something that serves you or on something that can hurt you and make your life worse than it is?
But Ray, you don’t understand!
It really is simple, you can choose to be happy and attract more things in your life to be happy about or you can choose to constantly fight the world, pointing out it’s injustices and pound people over the head on how smart or right you are, but you can’t typically be right and happy at the same time.
Self Sabotage in Relationships
Let me give you a scenario to play with. Let’s say you and your significant other are having problems so you decide to do something nice. You go and buy all the ingredients to their favorite dinner and slave away at the stove to prepare it for them and then they come home eat the food and say thank you. But, they never do anything special for you. How do you feel? IF you feel cheated or unfairly treated it means you were not actually cooking it for them, you were cooking it for you to make you feel right. Stop being addicted to the outcome and give gratitude that you have a relationship with someone you can spend time with and see how they start treating you differently. IF you give in to being right and puffing your chest out on how much better of a partner you are, you have just negated all the good you did with that dinner.
It’s simple, choose to be happy, think happy thoughts and give up the fact that you are unable to control all the events around you but you can control your reaction to them. To your abundance
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Ray Higdon
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Ray, this is the basics to the psychology theory I was taught and continue to learn. How we feel is dictated by what we think. Thanks for the reminder.
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:22 pm
Glad to help Tracey
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good stuff bro… as always
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:22 pm
Thanks man
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Good stuff buddy. I have harbored bad feelings for years. Just forgive them….it’s gone. Nothing but happy thoughts. Love you man.
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:23 pm
thanks man!
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Great post Ray! I gotta say, there’s definitely a bunch of people who constantly kept popping in my head while reading this. lol Self sabotage, it’s the one thing that can and will mess up one’s life and even the lives of others. Thanks for sharing this Ray!
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:24 pm
True.. every choice someone makes impacts someone else.
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Could not agree with you more Ray! Thank you for bringing your value to the networking community! Love this post and totally resonate with you….thank you!
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:24 pm
Thanks so much!
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WOW RAY What a Great post! Having a positive outlook on life is the main thing. SMILE & BE HAPPY!! Thanks for all you do! Chery
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:25 pm
thanks Chery
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amen!
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:25 pm
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AWESOME stuff! It's like when people give to charity to get the big public thank you MORE than because they wanted to see the cause further. The fact is we can choose our actions but we cannot control outcome so to be upset that the nice meal did not earn the Atta Girl, or the pat on the back is because we cannot control the outcome. To be addicted to an uncontrolable, X factor – is like playing Russian Roulette and PLANNING to live after discharging the shot. Can we say Duhhhhh!
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:27 pm
Thanks Trudy!
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Hi Ray,
Excellent success tips! I trust that although one little blog post may not be enough to stop the self-sabotage process, it can certainly encourage pondering! Pondering if the thoughts and felling are empowering or disempowering.
The need to be in control of any outcome can lead to disappointment. Everything starts from us being accepting and filled with love. Magical relationship grows from there. Stop being right! You are so right, Ray!
Thanks for sharing!
Viola Tam
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:41 pm
welcome Viola
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Hi Ray,
Excellent success tips! I trust that although one little blog post may not be enough to stop the self-sabotage process, it can certainly encourage pondering! Pondering if the thoughts and felling are empowering or disempowering.
The need to be in control of any outcome can lead to disappointment. Everything starts from us being accepting and filled with love. Magical relationship grows from there. Stop being right! You are so right, Ray!
Thanks for sharing!
Viola Tam
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:42 pm
welcome Viola!
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This right here is why I jumped on the opportunity to get in your "Power mind course". You're awfully wise for a young pup.
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:46 pm
thanks man!!
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Yes it’s our choice to be happy or not. We have to decide what it is to be.
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:46 pm
right on
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Hey Ray,
Very well said. I learned from this post! Thanks for sharing!
Sherman
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:46 pm
welcome Sherman
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Ray, I liked this post. I think this is a situation every one of us has experienced. I know I have and I will do what it takes to avoid it. A great tips to use every day!
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 2:47 pm
Thanks for sharing!
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If my girlfriend never did anything special for me, I’d have to replace her, or make some new female friends just to keep her on her toes.
I want to be happy, being right is a bonus.
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 6th, 2012 at 3:49 pm
I choose being happy =)
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thanks for this one Ray.
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 6th, 2012 at 3:49 pm
welcome!
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Thank you Ray, I have to choose to be happy everyday. Its a practice that I had to choose to make and I am amazed sometimes how well it works. I spent my life self-sabotaging and I choose to be done with that. I practice putting negativity behind me. Thanks for all of your positive lessons I am enjoying the Power Mind lessons. The meditation I find is a fantastic way to start my day. Thank you!
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Ray Higdon Reply:
October 9th, 2012 at 10:33 am
So glad you got value!
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Ray I had missed this one. It’s a lot like most of your posts: reader-friendly and to the point instead of wasting people’s time. But there is more for me in this post than any of the others and more probably than even you yourself could imagine. I was quite successful in high school, doing extracurricular activities and even winning a scholarship. But then I found out how truly horrible my first three years of life had been, back when I was just a little helpless baby, and finally understood why I had the sleep problem and various other problems.
I developed that exact attitude you portrayed here. Everything went south as soon as that happened ~ you’re so right about that.
Thanks for the truly great post.
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